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absent fathers, adoption, Cinderella, fairy tales, Fantasy, Father John Misty, Fiction, Heaven, Maggie Nelson, magical thinking, Silvia Federici, Snow White, Sylvia Plath, V.C. Andrews, witches
I want to thank my lovers
for introducing me to fantasy husbands
These are true stories
Not fairy tales
Cinderella Or Snow White
I didn’t drink a magic potion
But I sing to birds, talk to ravens and crows, and I swear
A fox Said, “Help me.”
When I saw the rein of the crow’s full power
Were they there to replace the absent father?
I need to find a way
To say their names without saying them
I give away too much
in my writing
And yet
I’m fiercely private
I swear
Ask Maggie Nelson
She writes autotheory
join the party if you want
Her writing gives an invitation
And when I listened to the Red Parts
On the day I packed for our trip,
I said, “I love you.”
And I meant it
What a pleasant surprise
I projected my all onto you
But not nearly as much as I projected onto my long-lost mothers
And the guilt I felt
For not seeing
There is work in love
And care
in raising children
And not getting to play
DAD! Mom should’ve got to play like we played
now I am angry for a lack of play
white guys with long hair are saying they’re shamans
That can fix my woes
And predators want you to call them Daddy
You heard it here first
But someone very special told Meso first
Before I was ready to hear it
To my first love
You know men write songs about all the girls they loved before
Well, here’s mine
You are the one
The one who showed me ghost gods,
And dream spaces
Come to life
Jim Morrison entered my dream space
Pushed me against the wall
In a black-and-white dream
And kissed me.
There’s truth in fairy tales.
This is all your fault.
You gave Me the most intellectual introduction
And when I tried to introduce my new lover to the ghost god
He cringed
But he’s known to come unhinged
When he loses his clothing at festivals, we are too cool for
Even MDMA cant save us from acid-trip monkey highs
I don’t like my skin crawling, either
I haven’t climbed a tree to find myself yet
I remember my legs being compared to tree trunks
When I was just a little girl
And being fucked by that white trash hillbilly
In the woods
Who raped by stealthing
Before there was a word
There’s a place in hell for monsters like you
Meet me in the hospital room
Hear the sound
Of screaming
“I hate doctors!”
As I heard
Felt
Smelled everything
And they burned the witches, they say
But WE had beautiful sex.
So good, so good
After a night of no sleep
Insert here (another Father John Misty lyric)
The breeze came in
After we hallucinated in a hot tent
This must be where Papa Misty wrote some of those songs on Fear Fun
I’m not the only one.
To search for the father
Or have a thing for Daddies
Some scholars made him Infamous
You made him famous
If even in my dreams
Come to life
Right in the backyard where I walked the dogs
Kitten the PhD and a bag of speed
Who is this man standing before me?
With a blue satiny shirt
Dress trousers
Getting on his knees
Like some blessed saviour,
I’ve been touched by gods before
I’m learning the tropes
But magic is real
They sing dance songs.
We tell true stories
Taxi Taxi give me a ride
Vodka and orange
In a glass
With ice cubes
On a date
Was it our first date?
It was my first date.
Thank you for treating me like a gentleman
To teach me what it’s like
To be a gentle man
To this day, I still LOVE date night
Yes, there’s a song about this too
I didn’t write it
But I love you
It was written for all of you
That is cliche
But there is truth in tropes
I do know you.
I met you.
In university
Remember?
After we kissed at the bar
I tasted salty, you said
You looked at me and said
“I bet you are spoiled.”
I thought,
I am not
But boy, do I LIKE this guy
I think he knows me
He sees the real me, too
Am I not supposed to say any of this
Am I?
Fuck your friend for liking Zepplin.
I was right all along.
He deserved to get bitten for arguing with me
I know sexism when we didn’t no rape culture
I lived it
Did you know?
I tried to tell you.
You wore glasses
And read in front of the class
A girl objectified you
As you read
I wanted to rip her face off
For disrespecting you
I am no groupie
Hey, hard drive, Daddies should wear glasses that match their prescription.
Roses in a heart on the bed
Lingerie inside
From where we led
Making love
With your clothes on
And your mom walks in
Your dark cave of a bedroom
Your letters
I will never forget you.
I will always love you for loving me so gently
I will never forget
Angels exist
In darkness
I was possessive and jealous, too
I will do my best to find humility
The next time I write
About a fantasy husband.
So please don’t die.
I have a scholar cave now.
It’s where Foucault meets me at night.
And my pants are off under the sheets
You welcomed me as if I were your own
ten years to get past the goodbye
To even say goodbye
Was this, all along, about my father?
I saw you in his eyes
Or was it the other way around?
Didn’t you say you visited his grave?
You like psychedelics
You never should have had shame
Thank you for loving me so gently
When I was a vicious kitten
Wild
Untamed
I can’t be contained
Not sure I want to be
made out with some disgusting rock guy wanna be
you did something to my safe room
Never do bad to my safe rooms
The cat of rage will wreak havoc
Morgan will unleash you
Nobody likes rock n roll.
And no one played it like Lemmy
This is for you, too, Joey Hatred
And for the musician, too
I loved music Tuesday
Writing songs
In the red room
Witches spoke to me through the pipes
Remember?
‘I’m in over my head’
You’ve got Daddy Issues.
We all do
It will take me some time to get to you.
you know me well.
And magical thinking brought you a magical little girl
For a magical man
I always knew you’d be the best father
That’s why my heart was ripped out of my chest before we said goodbye
Remember?
A monster came through the bedroom window to rip my heart out of my chest
And eat it in front of me
I clutched my chest
Even when I saw my ghost godfathers,
In new fantasy, husbands
Who never replaced the face I will never forget
There is truth in fairy tales
I will never forget
If even I try to make him real
And if it’s meant to be
He will fall on top of me
And below me
Worshipping the witches, they tried to burn
We live in the magic they tried to destroy
Only those who know witches know us
Silvia Federici, I love you
When I meet you
I want to give you a hug
I’m still kinda afraid of Butler
I know someone who met them!
There are good and bad ones.
Even my therapist knows this.
He asked me who I was On Halloween.
“I am a good witch today.”
he and my HIIT teacher are rooting for me
In the fantasy space
where
Writers and fantasy husbands meet
“Are you ready to go back to the real world?”
“No, I am not.”
Is this something you say to all your patients?
I have a strong fantasy part, he says
And my academic part is strong, too
I got no sleep tonight.
Because I was awake while dreaming
Something that only happens once in a while
When I’m writing an album
A memoir
Or a paper
A dissertation proposal?
Can someone please tell me what the fuck I am doing?
Sorry, Mom, I’m cursing.
But you said my name.
I will keep going.
And no
None of my mentors replaced the absent father.
Not even the least famous one
when we missed a goodbye
The fires flamed from a reading
Met us in reality
And in my dream space
And I met my dad there
And my brother, too
A novel was written for Chloe, and an album, too.
Josh Tillman, this one’s for you.
Dave Mustaine
For you, too
You have similar backstories, and I’d like to write more about you
Bob Bickford, Caves in the Rain, and Little Rosie Girl, too
What have I got to lose?
Professor Hardy
I seek the object of desire
I am growing tired of being an object
And more hungry
To object ify ideas
I am HUNGRY
Dakota Johnson, YES
Maggie Gyllenhaal
Sarah Polley
Tell the stories
I LOVE your stories
I can’t lie to you.
Professors are knowledge keepers.
And I love and hate them
But not as much as disillusionment
When learning is no longer an ethic
And the university sheds its neoliberal skin
To reveal late-stage capitalism
And the NEED for magic and connection
No more old white men
like my academic part chanting about Chaucer
Insert eye rolls here
But he has a place, doesn’t he?
Just not in this place
My blog space
reunion life writing and memoirs are my bag
So are books
I don’t care if it’s cliche
I’ll take on academic tones
if I don’t find a connection
If I can’t sing your songs and write my own
I’m not sure there’s a life worth living for
Because trauma requires reconnection
It’s why I sing
And cry when I sing a song I need to sing
I Believe in You
I Believe in You, Too
Magical thinking before we knew
Or maybe you knew?
Hello to my cousin
For teaching me about the golden child
And telling me subversive stories
I had a visceral reaction to Britney Spears’ memoir
Her abortion in the bathroom
I told all of this to get to the father
Except for the part about me singing
despising the little hell, I learned of the music industry
Show me your dicks, assholes
Fuck you, Motley’s through
I could not wear red latex that night
And I cried
Distracted myself with thoughts of the father
His emotional support lived in giving medicine, too.
Who is a Foucaultian
Whose work made me angry
“We are not ready for this,” I said
And I told him so when I met her
Now, my thinking has changed
Or not changed at all
And here I go
Entrapping myself
Identity is a trap.
It’s why I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing with my hair
And I don’t want to go there
Not today
I want to feel
But I’m scared like hell when I do.